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The Real Side | Commentary by Joe Messina
| Friday, May 23, 2014

joemessinamugI am often accused of hate for many reasons. My stance on gay marriage, abortion, minimum wage, illegal immigration or the war on women. You know, all the hot buttons that immediately label you as a hater. So says “the tolerant group.” Interesting.

By definition of the Left, a hater is one who doesn’t agree with you, period. (Have you heard that before?) The most recent example of this was during a Dallas talk show where four women were discussing the terrible things a football player tweeted when he saw Michael Sam kissing his boyfriend. The women were split. Two held the notion that they felt too big of a deal was being made about everything. Why did we have to see the kiss over and over? Why did the football player who tweeted out his comments have to take “sensitivity” training? His tweets were classified as hate speech.

Webster’s defines hate as:

1) To feel intense or passionate dislike for (i.e., “the boys hate each other”);

2) To have a strong aversion to (i.e., “he hates flying”);

3) To express strong dislike for, criticize or abuse (i.e., “I can’t hate on them for trying something new”);

Since we are talking about hating people here, let’s stick with the first definition. The assumption is that because I don’t agree with “same-sex marriage,” “abortion” and “immigration,” that I HATE all those involved.

If we are going to communicate with each other, and we know communication can make or break a relationship, we need to speak the same language. If you are going to call me a hater, racist, homophobe or bigot, should we not be using the same meaning from the same widely accepted dictionary?

Let’s break it down. Based on Webster’s dictionary, if I don’t agree with and feel strongly against abortion and/or dislike abortion, then a true statement would be I hate abortion. However, also based on the Webster’s definition, I do not hate the person who performed or had the abortion because I don’t have an intense or passionate dislike for the person, just the act.

To communicate clearly we have to speak the same language with the same understanding. Definitions for racist, homophobe, bigot and so on have to have the same meanings for all or they mean nothing.

On the Dallas talk show, two of the women felt it was more than appropriate that Dolphins defensive back Dan Jones was fined, suspended and ordered to go to sensitivity training over his “terrible” remarks on Twitter. The other two, one an older woman (can I say “older woman” without being fined?) felt that this was a very slippery slope and that the idea that one was not free to voice their displeasure with the action of another person in the view of the public was knocking at the front door of suppressing free speech. I agree.

The Left keeps gnawing at you when they don’t like your opinion about someone or something, adding “-ist” and “-phobe” to the word so others will get the impression that you are a very bad person.

 

This tolerant, understanding, forgiving, big-tent group only has tolerance for those who don’t have a conservative bone in their body, as is evidenced on Twitter every time a conservative takes a stand on the issue.

Liberal journalist Juan Williams was fired because he said he felt nervous when he was on a plane with a group of “Muslim” or “Arab”-looking men. That’s the hypocrisy of the Left.

If they are offended by seeing a crucifix on the wall at an Easter event, an Easter bunny at a school Easter event, a nativity scene at a Christmas event, the 10 Commandments on the courthouse wall, a picture of a man and woman with the caption “traditional marriage” and, in response, we immediately have to take it down, cover it up and apologize, then why is it when a conservative is offended by a same-sex kiss, Jesus on a crucifix placed upside down in a bottle of urine and called art, a Planned Parenthood advertisement, Jesus on a cross with tattoos and a joint in his mouth and complains about it, we are chastised for being uptight and out of the mainstream? Double standard? Hypocrites, that’s all it is, old-fashioned (I said it) hypocrites. Just to be clear, Webster defines hypocrite as “a person who claims or pretends to have certain beliefs about what is right but who behaves in a way that disagrees with those beliefs.”

So when you Left-leaners say you want everyone to be open and transparent and you don’t want anyone to feel like they can’t say what they feel or express themselves, what you really mean is, everyone has the right to say something as long as they are not religious or straight, don’t believe in traditional marriage, don’t subscribe to “your kids belong to you and not the village,” don’t believe in lower taxes, don’t think corporations are good, and don’t think that white people are the basis of the problem. If they believe the President is wrong on foreign policy, economic policy, healthcare policy or just plain wrong for this country, then they are the problem and (for my Catholic friends) the Mortal Sin is simply, you are a registered Republican.

Political correctness, by its nature, is against anything that says, feels or does something that may make someone feel bad about themselves or what they are doing. It is hate by the very definition.

Political correctness needs to die a hard, fast death.

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  1. msc545 says:

    The problem is that same-sex marriage, abortion, and immigration have no effect on you, yet you continue to object to them as if they did.

  2. Rachel says:

    Dear Mr. Messina-

    As one of those who belongs to the – let’s see, how did you call it? – “tolerant, understanding, forgiving, big tent group,” I feel it is important to offer my politically INcorrect opinion on your thoughts here.

    The issue that we liberals take with the conservative Republicans is not that they have their views, but that they expect everyone else to adopt and adhere to those views. It is not simply a game of “I hate gay marriage,” but rather, “I hate gay marriage, so it should not be allowed.” Conservatives try to tell EVERYONE how to live their lives. That the way conservatives live their lives is the RIGHT way to live it. And that’s where the problem comes in.

    If Michael Sam had kissed a woman that day, then nobody would have said a word about it. Nobody would have cared. And that is where I take issue. It’s okay for a man and woman to kiss in public? But it’s not okay for two guys to do so? Or two women to do so? You mentioned hypocrisy? It’s right here. If it’s okay for a man and a woman to behave a certain way in front of others, then it needs to be okay for two men and two women to behave that way in front of others too.

    At one point, you mention that conservatives are expected to take down their crucifixes or their nativity scenes, etc… But the issue is not that you have those images in public view. The issue is that you don’t let anyone else practice their religious faith in the same way. So yeah, it’s not just that a crucifix is hanging on the wall. That is not the issue. It’s the expectation that everyone has to believe in the crucifix and the religion with which it is associated. That IS the issue. And I say this: if you want a crucifix on the wall, fine. But then you better let the Jews place a menorah, the Muslims hang an Allah medallion, etc…, in the same location. But it’s that second part that is not allowed. Nope. It’s Christianity for all.

    And Dan Jones getting punished for making insulting comments is an infringement of free speech? Let me pose this: you have two employees working for you, Mike and Jen. Mike starts making insulting and hateful comments about Jen to others in the office because he doesn’t like her haircut. As the supervisor, would you let Mike get away with this behavior? Is he entitled to say hateful things about Jen’s haircut because he is entitled to free speech?? So, yeah, when people make comments against another person for behaving in a way they didn’t like, then they should be held accountable. It is not free speech to insult another person.

    That does not mean, however, that you cannot follow your own views or have your own beliefs. We liberals are not telling you to start believing in gay marriage or abortion or any other social issues (which I will distinguish from political issues below). But don’t tell everyone else they have to give up those beliefs if they have them. You don’t like gay marriage? Fine. You don’t have to get married to another man. You don’t like abortion? Fine, your wife / girlfriend / lover / etc… does not have to get an abortion should you get her pregnant. But you don’t have a right to tell a gay couple they can’t get married, or a pregnant woman carrying a baby that is not yours that she cannot have an abortion. It’s because conservatives do this exact thing that liberals call you hater, and bigot, and racist. Not because you are against gay marriage. Or abortion. But because you try to tell others what they can and cannot do based on YOUR beliefs.

    And, with all that said, there is a difference between social issues like gay marriage and political issues like immigration and health care. Decisions made that affect the populace as a whole, like immigration and healthcare, I am all for everyone expressing their opinions on those decisions. Immigration affects everyone, so if you have an opinion on it, share it. THAT is free speech. And if I have an opinion, I am entitled to share it. That is also free speech. But gay marriage does not affect you. Explain to me how two men getting married is affecting your life. Abortion does not affect you. Explain to me how a woman who aborts an unborn child that is NOT YOURS has an impact on your life. Those are personal lifestyle decisions. And you can have your opinions on them, but don’t tell me that my opinion has to match yours.

    Signed,
    A Liberal Democrat

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