header image

[Sign Up Now] to Receive Our FREE Daily SCVTV-SCVNews Digest by E-Mail

Inside
Weather


 
Calendar
Today in
S.C.V. History
November 22
1843 - Rancho Castec (Lebec-Tejon area) granted to French immigrant Jose Covarrubias [story]
Rancho Castec diseno map


Commentary by Ron Bird
| Saturday, May 30, 2015

Ron BirdIt is very sad that Acton has lost another teen to suicide, the third in less than seven years.

There are no answers to this tragedy. The events that follow are always predictable. School boards and administrators cover up; the bullies run for shelter, sometimes in open sight; the family and friends grieve. We all hope the living learn just how fragile life is.

In October 2008 the first suicide happened. I was on the Acton-Agua Dulce School Board at the time, and my 13-year-old son had shared a class with the victim just four months prior. Even though my son was in a different school at the time, he told me who he thought pulled the trigger. Talking with the superintendent an hour later confirmed my son’s suspicions.

Denial of any knowledge of bullying by both his middle school and high school administrators followed. His eighth-grade teacher and an aide both admitted publicly they had witnessed the child being bullied. Psychologists were made available to both students and staff. They told the administrators not to do anything that glorifies suicide. The father wanted a plaque placed in honor of his son. This request was correctly denied.

In April 2011, the child of one of the school board members sadly took her life. A school district-sanctioned scholarship was established in the victim’s name. Somehow the board at the time didn’t realize this is more glorifying than a plaque.

Two weeks ago, the most recent tragedy occurred. The school district’s reaction to this tragedy was predictable. A school board member stated publicly: “There is no evidence that there was a cause from anything connected to the school.” How did he know that, just a couple days after the death?

In mourning, one of this child’s classmates hand-drew on a shirt a heart with the victim’s name on it and wore it to school. This child was asked to turn the shirt inside out so as not to “glorify suicide.” The child refused and was sent home; her parents contacted the media, and the story went viral. The school district’s response was denial. Do they really think a mourning 14-year-old would lie about that? They should be apologizing, not denying.

A news story comment by someone named Olive in Atlanta says it most succinctly: “Her T-shirt doesn’t glorify suicide. Those administrators are idiots.” It truly is sad that our school board does not know the difference between mourning and glorifying. And have they ever heard of the First Amendment?

The superintendent stated the obvious when he said their policies need to be updated regarding suicide prevention. As parents, we need to listen and watch out for our children. Hug them, love them and let them know they have a place to turn to. Hopefully a fourth needless, irrational act can be prevented.

Oh, and make sure to teach understanding and listening. Don’t forget that many Americans have fought and died to preserve our freedom to speak. Let the Haileys of the world mourn the loss of a friend.

 

Ron Bird is a former school board member in the Acton-Agua Dulce Unified School District.

 

Comment On This Story
COMMENT POLICY: We welcome comments from individuals and businesses. All comments are moderated. Comments are subject to rejection if they are vulgar, combative, or in poor taste.
REAL NAMES ONLY: All posters must use their real individual or business name. This applies equally to Twitter account holders who use a nickname.

26 Comments

  1. msc545 says:

    The lack of knowledge regarding bullying and suicide among school personnel, from teachers to the school board, is simply appalling. Keep ignoring preventative mental health and spend your money on sports, but don’t complain about the suicide rate.

  2. He doesn’t look like a teen.

  3. That is not the picture of the teen. This is the picture of Ron Bird. It’s important to real the complete story.

  4. Victoria Liberotti says:

    My brother also attended the Acton-Agua Dulce Unified School Distict and committed suicide in 2006 at the age of 17. Let’s please do everything we can to help these kids, listen to them, love them, support them and not minimize the issues important to them.

  5. So are school board members and administrators essentially stating that they are so dumb and ignorant that they cannot recognize the bullying in their school???
    Maybe they should open their eyes and stop being pathetic excusers!!! Or maybe people with brains should just replace them!!!

    • msc545 says:

      They would prefer to lose a few srudents rather tan do ant screening or provide any care since these things cost money.

  6. I do not have any children. But I can say that being bullied all through school, teachers and administrators have no idea how to deal with bullies or their targets. Telling a child to grow a thicker skin, ignore them and they’ll move on to someone else is a load of crap. Teachers, aids, administrators and the entire school board need to be educated about how to deal with bullies and how to properly care for the target of the bullies.

  7. Denise Latanzi says:

    The district was following protocol established by the National Association of School Psychologists. I cannot even imagine the horror of the parents who lost their child to suicide when the story became about a child who was simply asked turn a shirt inside out, the same thing they are asked to do for any dress code violation.
    Do the schools have an obligation to be more sensitive to the needs of the family who lost their child than the one who was wearing the T-shirt? Of course, plus “free speech” has never applied to minors in a school setting.
    Should the school set their protocol using the advice of trained therapists? Of course.
    Most schools have come a long way in the last few years to address bullying. Not always far enough, but its a leap to assume that’s the reason this tragedy occurred.
    It’s really sad that people aren’t more concerned about the parents.

  8. denise monsour says:

    Thank you so much for everything you said in your article. Thank you for standing up and acknowledging the truth. It is sad Enough that my daughter was devastated at being sent home. But now for the superintendent to continue to publicly lie and say she wasnt makes it worse. Even in the private meeting we had, he continued to try to lead Hailey into saying she wasn’t really sent home. I was the one who picked her up and was told she couldn’t wear the shirt at school because it “glamorized suicide”. Hailey was given the choice to take yhe shirt off or go home. Because she chose to honor her friend, she HAD to go home. I am so disappointed in the superintendents response, I can’t see straight. I DO NOT blame the principal. She is only following instructions from her superior. A school aid saw tge shirt and instructed her to turn it inside out. Hailey refused, and was sent to Ms. Freeman who told her to ” think on it” and sent her to the principal who in turn followed the “guidelines set forth by tge board. Something is serious wrong.

  9. My kids grew up in this school district. Bullying was very common, with teachers at times giving bullies support with by laughing with them. I pulled my kids out and homeschooled them, after several attempts at reporting to the school about bullying behavior. It was not only denied, but blamed on my child…”maybe he should toughen up…boys will be boys…it’s not that bad. ..your child is over sensitive”…etc..I wouldn’t send any child to these schools….find another alternative if you can….

    • The fix to bullying starts in the home of the bully! Parenting once informed that they are raising a bully, they can work on the problem. The parents of the one being bullied can also get involved if the school sees it happening and let’s them know. A good home life builds confidence too for the teen.

    • I agree, but the school needs to notify the parents of said bully…it doesn’t even make it that far. I as a parent was able to contact one of the bullies parents, who were upset and tried to do the right thing. However, because the school refused to admit that there was a problem, and to punish this bully, the bullying became worse…

  10. Schools talk about anti-bullying buy they turn away all the time. So much for their help…..

  11. Molly Flores says:

    This a great story! Finally someone is writing the truth ! @sctv Santa Clarita, You should ask President Amanda Buchan of The Agua Dulce Woman’s club about the bullying that they are covering up. Make sure you ask her who the Agua Dulce Royal Court is being lead by and what they are doing about the young woman in their court who is a cyber bully, and why they are angry that the girl who is being bullied is speaking out! They are so angry that they are going back on the contract and not paying scholarship money as promised to the bullied girl! .. I will private message you more information! Would love for you to see how they are dealing with an in house case of bullying!
    Administration is failing! Please private message me your email:)

    Or contact Please contact Annaya Zubick , Olga Zubick or myself
    Molly Flores

  12. Molly Flores says:

    This a great story! Finally someone is writing the truth ! @sctv Santa Clarita, You should ask President Amanda Buchan of The Agua Dulce Woman’s club about the bullying that they are covering up. Make sure you ask her who the Agua Dulce Royal Court is being lead by and what they are doing about the young woman in their court who is a cyber bully, and why they are angry that the girl who is being bullied is speaking out! They are so angry that they are going back on the contract and not paying scholarship money as promised to the bullied girl! .. I will private message you more information! Would love for you to see how they are dealing with an in house case of bullying!
    Administration is failing! Please private message me your email:)

    Or contact Please contact Annaya Zubick , Olga Zubick or myself
    Molly Flores

  13. Ken Pfalzgraf says:

    Coverage of the Town Hall meeting regarding this issue by the Agua Dulce Acton Country Journal is here: https://www.dropbox.com/s/wvuirw47phy13ug/scan0007.pdf?dl=0

  14. So very sad. There is a great book out called The Will To live. Written by a father who lost his son almost 5 years ago. Started a foundation . Great book. Written by John Trautwein

  15. Anais Medford says:

    Agua Dulce is not the only local district that deny their bullying issues. Districts like Saugus Union do to. The School Districts often deny or limit the bullying issues. In fact, I feel that they do a cover up and and put their circle of wagon around the bully, especially if the bully is an administrator, teacher, staff member, (child or friends of the child) of someone closely connected to the District.
    My child has been bullied repeatedly both psychologically and physically on multiple occasions. Despite my repeated efforts to report each time it happened, nothing much was done and the bullying continued. It’s a shame and a crime (literally and figuratively) that the Districts do this, not to mention a violation of Civil Rights. The Federal Law mandates that the School Districts appropriately respond to and proactively respond to bullying issues with appropriate assessments, counseling, and punishments of the bullies (and effective & research based proactive anti-bullying programs), but this does not often happen in reality.
    Bullying does not allow a child access to appropriate education. Bullying has harmful and damaging short term and long term consequences to education and pyschological state of the student.
    Parents have to speak up and advocate for their child.
    Here are some helpful sources:
    http://www.cde.ca.gov/ls/ss/se/prevbully.asp
    http://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/letters/colleague-201010.html
    http://www2.ed.gov/about/offices/list/ocr/letters/colleague-bullying-201410.pdf

Leave a Comment


Opinion Section Policy
All opinions and ideas are welcome. Factually inaccurate, libelous, defamatory, profane or hateful statements are not. Your words must be your own. All commentary is subject to editing for legibility. There is no length limit, but the shorter, the better the odds of people reading it. "Local" SCV-related topics are preferred. Send commentary to: LETTERS (at) SCVNEWS.COM. Author's full name, community name, phone number and e-mail address are required. Phone numbers and e-mail addresses are not published except at author's request. Acknowledgment of submission does not guarantee publication.
Read More From...
RECENT COMMENTARY
Thursday, Nov 21, 2024
The holiday season is just around the corner and it’s one of the most magical times of the year.
Wednesday, Nov 20, 2024
Supervisor Kathryn Barger commented on Attorney General Rob Bonta’s announcement that he is pursuing additional monitoring and strengthened protections for youth in Los Angeles County’s juvenile halls.
Wednesday, Nov 13, 2024
I think we’re all glad that the extreme heat of the past few months here in southern California has passed, and we are now enjoying some beautiful fall days.
Monday, Nov 11, 2024
This week, I took my Oath of Office for my third and final term as Fifth District Supervisor.
Monday, Nov 11, 2024
As we conclude the 2024 Fall season, I would like to thank all the athletic directors, school administrators, athletic trainers and anyone else responsible for helping implement and navigate our new Health and Safety Bylaws.
Thursday, Nov 7, 2024
Did you know that our local Santa Clarita Public Library offers passport acceptance services? Whether you’re planning a vacation, studying abroad or reconnecting with family, the Santa Clarita Public Library is here to support your journey.

Latest Additions to SCVNews.com
The Santa Clarita Valley Chamber of Commerce will hold its annual Awards + Installation event on Friday, Jan. 31 at the Hyatt Regency.
Jan. 31: SCV Chamber Awards + Installation Early Bird Tickets
The Valley Industry Assoction will host a Cocktails & Conversation event with Cameron Smyth on Thursday, Dec. 12, 5:30=7:30 p.m. at Margarita’s Mexican Grill, 23320 Valencia Blvd., Valencia, CA 91355.
Dec. 12: Cocktails & Conversation with Cameron Smyth
Following an extensive search, the Governing Board of the William S. Hart Union High School District has unanimously selected current Interim Superintendent Dr. Michael Vierra as the new Hart District Superintendent, filling the vacancy created when Mike Kuhlman resigned effective June 30.
Hart Board Selects Current Interim Superintendent to Fill Vacancy
"Christmas Carol: The True Meaning of Christmas" will be performed on stage at the Canyon Theatre Guild on weekends beginning Friday, Nov. 29 thru Monday, Dec. 23 at 24242 Main St., Newhall, CA 91321.
Nov. 29: ‘Christmas Carol, The True Meaning of Christmas’
The California Air Resources Board has approved a $34.94 million incentives funding plan that will continue support ongoing efforts to increase access to medium- and heavy-duty zero-emission trucks, buses and equipment, with a focus on small businesses.
CARB Incentive Plan Focuses on Fleets for Small Businesses
Preparing to decorate for the holidays? If you come across broken string lights that are no longer usable, instead of tossing in the trash you can now drop them off for recycling at one of the SAFE collection centers
Recycle Broken Holiday Lights at SAFE Collection Centers
The nonprofit Raising the Curtain Foundation will host a fundraising event, "Holidayland" with mid-century pop culture expert Charles Phoenix, on Sunday, Dec. 8 at 3 p.m.
Dec. 8: ‘Charles Phoenix Holidayland’ at Newhall Family Theatre
The Santa Clarita City Council will hold its regular meeting Tuesday, Nov. 26, beginning with a special closed meeting at 5 p.m., followed immediately with open session at 6 p.m.
Nov. 26: City Council Meets to Discuss Contracts, Open Space Naming
The American Cancer Society Relay for Life of Santa Clarita Valley will present its holiday boutique fundraiser, 10 a.m.-3 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 23, at Santa Clarita United Methodist Church, 26640 Bouquet Canyon Road, Santa Clarita, CA 91350.
Nov. 23: ACS Relay for Life SCV Holiday Boutique
California State Parks Office of Historic Preservation has announced it will begin accepting applications for the State Historic Rehabilitation Tax Credit Program at 8 a.m. on Jan. 6, 2025.
State Historic Rehabilitation Tax Credit Program Launch
1843 - Rancho Castec (Lebec-Tejon area) granted to French immigrant Jose Covarrubias [story]
Rancho Castec diseno map
Due to construction and weather delays, the closure of the exercise staircase at Central Park, 27150 Bouquet Canyon Road, Santa Clarita, CA 91350, will be extended through Nov. 28.
Central Park Exercise Staircase Closure Extended Thru Nov. 28
Santa Clarita Ballet's 30th anniversary production of "The Nutcracker" will perform, Saturday and Sunday, Dec. 14-15 at the Santa Clarita Performing Arts Center, 26455 Rockwell Canyon Road, Santa Clarita, CA 91355.
Dec. 14-15: Santa Clarita Ballet’s ‘The Nutcracker’
Registration is underway for the College of the Canyons winter 2025 session, which boasts more than 300 class sections.
COC Winter 2025 Registration Underway
Christmas came early for The Master's University Men's Basketball Head Coach Kelvin Starr.
TMU Men’s Basketball Knocks Off No. 2, Starr Sees 300th Win
Theatre in a Week and Off Book Theatre is back with its holiday one act comedy "Holiday Hijinx" Friday, Dec. 13- Sunday, Dec. 15 at The MAIN in Old Town Newhall.
Dec. 13-15: ‘Holiday Hijinx’ Presented by Theatre in a Week, Off Book Theatre
The Santa Clarita Master Chorale presents its Silver Bell Jubilee concert Sunday, Dec. 8, 4 p.m. at Santa Clarita Performing Arts Center, 26455 Rockwell Canyon Road, Santa Clarita, CA 91355.
Dec. 8:  Santa Clarita Master Chorale Presents Silver Bell Jubilee
The holiday season is just around the corner and it’s one of the most magical times of the year.
Mayor Cameron Smyth | Experience Holiday Cheer on the Tracks
Celebrate this special time of year with the 29th annual Winter Magic Lighted Boat Parade and holiday event Saturday, Dec. 7 at Castaic Lake, Lower Lagoon.
Dec. 7: The 29th Annual Winter Magic Lighted Boat Parade
1967 - Local voters approve formation of community college and elect COC's first five-member board - Dr. William G. Bonelli Jr., Bruce Fortine, Sheila Dyer, Peter Huntsinger, Edward Muhl [story]
COC board
You can make a difference in a child or teen’s life this holiday season through the Boys and Girls Club of the Santa Clarita Valley. You can volunteer at a club holiday event, host a toy drive, sponsor a club family or make a donation.
Hope for the Holidays with Boys & Girls Club of SCV
Art, in whatever the medium, can communicate so much. It can inspire imagination, exude peace and calm, or tell the world the stories of a community and a culture or connect on an extremely personal level.
Kalli Arte Collective to be CSUN’s First Orndorff Artist-in-Residence
The city of Santa Clarita invites community members to attend the unveiling of the newest inductees to the Walk of Western Stars.
Nov. 23: New Honorees Inducted into Walk of Western Stars
Supervisor Kathryn Barger commented on Attorney General Rob Bonta’s announcement that he is pursuing additional monitoring and strengthened protections for youth in Los Angeles County’s juvenile halls.
Barger on Protections for Youth in Juvenile Halls
SCVNews.com